Throughout my entire life until a couple of yours ago, I was agonised by the guilt that came with saying no, to the point where people around me know no was not something I could formulate with ease. No was something I would say after I had sacrificed and reached my wits end.

Learning to live beyond how I feel taught me that if the word is in the English dictionary, it can be used. But must be used politely. I had to learn that when someone invites me somewhere or needs my help, it is not a summons to appear in court. I am allowed to decline. I am allowed to protect my personal space, my peace and my spirit.

But it is also my responsibility to not hurt another’s in the process. The word no can be liberating. It needs no justification and no explanation. I own my no.

Okay, now try saying no to Morgan… kidding