by Jamil F. Khan | Feb 11, 2022 | Relationships
When meeting someone with an interest in pursuing a romantic relationship, looks matter though some may try to deny it. We do not see a personality or intention, at first sight, we see a face, a body. These things, shallow as they may seem, are important for initial...
by Jamil F. Khan | Feb 4, 2022 | Relationships
Somewhere past the halfway mark of 2021, I was on the phone with a friend. I had called to check in and see how she was doing. Soon enough the attention turned to me and in response to the same I said: “I am doing really well. I am now the person I imagined I could...
by Jamil F. Khan | Nov 26, 2021 | Home, Relationships, Troubling Home Series
When thinking about the heart of this series, it is about the moving parts of belonging. It is not a neat, easy-to-digest package of experiences and thoughts, but a messy back and forth between what one has known and what one has chosen anew. Sometimes, despite our...
by Jamil F. Khan | Nov 19, 2021 | Relationships, Troubling Home Series
When the realisation set in that I would never be able to go back home, a sense of despair befell me. It was not that there was no house to go to, but that what I called home made no space for me. We are not equipped to think about home in ways that don’t centre...
by Jamil F. Khan | Nov 12, 2021 | Relationships, Troubling Home Series
We talk about “feeling at home” as a signifier of safety, familiarity and comfort. For some, it does mean exactly that. It is a feeling that first embraced us in childhood before our parents’ dreams for us were rudely interrupted by reality and our agency. For some,...
